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Elizabeth Schneider's avatar

Holy cow! This is epic! Normally I’d try to write something more profound but I don’t have it in me right now. This is beautiful, though.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thank you, Elizabeth!

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MJW's avatar

Wow! Thanks, Jeff. And thank Fred for agreeing to let you publish your correspondence.

I agree with everything you've said. I am not yet at the point of inviting this conversation though I have often said I'd like to understand those who see things so differently from me. You've provided a path and served as a role model. Let's see if I can walk this walk in the months ahead.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Truthfully, I'm not always in that space, either, as Sunday's new piece will demonstrate. But we can strive to be.

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Dr Deborah Vinall's avatar

This is uplifting, beautiful, hopeful. Leading with open curiosity is the way. It can certainly be difficult to recognize our own heat rising and chose our response rather than reaction, but when we take that beat and chose curiosity and respect, change can happen - both internally and interpersonally.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks so much, Doc! I appreciate the feedback!

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Self-Love Studio with Morgan's avatar

Wow, you went there. This post is courageous and clearly took a lot of good, hard work to create. You're tackling one of the hardest things we're all facing right now, and you do so with compassion and generosity. With peace, love, and attempts at real understanding!! I like the ten tips you suggest near the end. Practical and very doable. Thanks for what you're doing (and for the sweet pet pics!).

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks Morgan!

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Dr Christine DiBlasio's avatar

"...approach conversations with curiosity, seek to understand a person’s subjective world view, be open to new perspectives, treat everyone with dignity and respect, and recognize each person’s inherent worth." Yes.

Have you read: McRaney, D. (2022). How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion. United States: Penguin Publishing Group.

https://www.google.com/books/edition/How_Minds_Change/-qVPEAAAQBAJ?hl=en&gbpv=1

Super interesting and in line with your post.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

I will definitely add it to my list. Thanks!

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