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betty's avatar

I recognize this feeling. After I lost my husband. It is hard to describe to others. I believe it to be grief.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks for commenting, Betty. I too lost a partner in a horrible tragedy. It hadn't occurred to me until now how similar the disorientation and lack of mooring felt then to what I'm experiencing now. I wish you love and peace.

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Self-Love Studio with Morgan's avatar

I deeply admire how you're turning your distress into love and care, in whatever ways available to you. Every act of kindness matters. And we're still faced with all of our dismay, anger, shock, and grief. Thank you for sharing so openly. May better times lie ahead. 💕💕💕

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thank you, Morgan. 💛

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MJW's avatar

Hi Jeff ~

I'm glad you're receiving the feedback you requested... it's good to see what all of your readers say here.... But REALLY! You know that there are so many people feeling EXACTLY as you are ~ angry, frustrated, scared, helpless... all of it. And we have to spend a bit of time acknowledging how that tears at the fabric of our lives, our focus, our patience, our health and our sanity. Yes, it does. Full stop.

And yet... once we've felt our feelings and emoted all over our family and friends and Facebook... we have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and get back to the work at hand.

This country has been threatened before. We barely made it through the Revolutionary War to become the amazing nation that we are. Just ask George Washington as he led his ragged troops across the Delaware! We could have easily lost our country to the bloodbath of our Civil War. Just ask Abraham Lincoln as he worked with his Cabinet to form a more perfect union. We were attacked on our own land on 9/11 and fought back, a people briefly united.

We will not lose this fight either. We will find a way to work together to save the best of what we have. We just have to keep in touch, keep talking among ourselves, reminding and supporting each other, just as you asked us to do. And so we will, here and elsewhere.

Thank you, Jeff.

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Ilene Feldman's avatar

This is so good and so true. I feel everything you said. For so many of us this is exactly how we feel no matter how “perfect” a life we may have. The undercurrent is so troubling,it’s hard to live a normal daily life. I hope your project of help and kindness works for you,I think I will have to try it.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Hi Mom! ❤️

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Ilene Feldman's avatar

592364

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Debbie Piccillo's avatar

I share your sentiments 100%.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks, Debbie. You're inspiring though with how much work you did around the election. Don't forget all that effort! ❤️

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Lindsay Southwick's avatar

Every single word you wrote feels relatable. It's all so overwhelming. And depressing. So grateful for voices like yours that make me feel less alone. I saw a homeless man this morning and took your advice and gave him a few dollars through my car window. Then I cried. Thank you for the reminder that, if nothing else, we can be kind in response to all the unkindness.

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MJW's avatar

As the saying goes... When you're not sure what to do, do what's kind.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks so much for your comment. Lindsay. It means a lot to me. And I'm so very touched by your gesture of kindness to the homeless person and your response to your kindness. That's beautiful. I beliebe we can survive this as a nation if we just look out for and care about one another. 🙏💛

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Karen Gordon's avatar

I feel you jeff. Every word of this resonates with me. You are not alone in your experience. I think your conclusion is the best one can come to - which is be of service to others. That’s what we can do. Add a bit of light. Glad to know you’re out there!

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks Karen! 💛

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Dr Christine DiBlasio's avatar

I share your sentiments.

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Jeff Feldman, MSW, LSW's avatar

Thanks Christine.

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